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Hiding Your Lack of Success Until You ‘Fix’ It
There’s nothing to fix
When having a heart-to-heart with a friend last night, that was my line of reasoning:
“I keep it to myself because I don’t want to be burdened with other people’s doubt.”
Already, I’m feeling shame. I want to tell you, “I’m actually successful…” But I think that would defeat the purpose.
We all have bigger dreams than we are currently living. That’s the whole point of dreams.
However, if I’m so ashamed of the contrast between my current situation and my dreams, I lose the ability to move toward what I want.
I Wanna Look Where I’m Going
You wouldn’t put your car’s windshield on the floorboard. It goes in front so you can see where you’re going — not where you already are.
I don’t want to get so caught up in what currently is that I can’t move toward what might be.
But that stops being useful when I get so afraid of what is that my entire nervous system is running on fear.
Fear of Not Being Enough
When I feel shame about where I am, I am non-verbally communicating that I’m not enough. Even if it’s just to myself.
